For years, I believed my worth was tied to how well I did my job.
I've been a hairstylist for over 30 years, and although I loved helping women feel beautiful, I quietly struggled with something most people never saw. After every appointment, I would replay the day in my mind, wondering if I had done enough. Should I have added more highlights? Should I have cut it differently? Did they really love their hair?
My work became my identity. If my clients were happy, I felt good about myself. If something didn't go exactly as planned, I questioned my own worth.
People saw a confident business owner, but inside I was insecure. I apologized too often, struggled to say no, and spent so much energy trying to make everyone else happy that I forgot how to take care of myself. I had very few boundaries, and I often allowed my clients to run my business. Afterwards, I would feel frustrated and resentful, wondering why I couldn't simply speak up for what I needed.
Deep down, I wanted more than a successful career. I wanted to believe that I was enough simply because I was me—not because of what I accomplished or how well I performed.
The turning point came when I revisited a childhood memory with my father. I had accidentally spilled the glue he was using while fixing something around the house, and I carried the belief for years that I wasn't good enough. One day, I chose to see that moment through his eyes instead of my own. I realized he was carrying the pressure of having to fix everything for our family. His words reflected what he was feeling, not who I was.
That insight changed everything.

I stopped allowing other people's opinions, reactions, and expectations to define my value. I began separating who I am from what I do. I learned that self-worth isn't something we earn—it's something we remember.
Today, my life feels lighter. I smile more, laugh more, and no longer feel the need to prove myself. When something triggers me, I don't spiral into self-criticism. Instead, I pause, become curious, and ask, What is this trying to teach me? I set healthy boundaries with love instead of guilt, and I meet others with more compassion because I know everyone is carrying a story we can't always see.

That journey is what led me to become a life coach.
Now, I help women who have spent years searching for their worth through achievement, relationships, careers, or the approval of others. Together, we uncover the beliefs that have been holding them back, reconnect with the truth of who they are, and create a life rooted in self-love, peace, and authenticity.
I don't believe you need to become someone new.
I believe the person you've been searching for has been within you all along.
Sometimes, all you need is someone to help you remember.
And I would love to walk that journey with you!

- Christean